Whew, NEEDED to hear this! A huge part of this mindset for me is being placed in a caretaker role especially as the eldest daughter. I want my work and legacy to help people and be the antithesis of capitalism and grind culture, but felt (and still feel at times) that the people I want to work with won’t be able to afford what I ask for, despite going above and beyond, but the ones that can afford what I would like to charge, just…aren’t aligned in my values. It’s something I still wrestle with and part of the reason I haven’t put together a service list as part of my website/portfolio, but is what’s holding me back. I don’t want to be a martyr anymore, I’m better for my communities when I’m able to take care of myself, live, and go through constant burn out. Thank you for this reminder 💝
I feel this so deeply. That eldest daughter, caretaker energy runs deep—and unlearning martyrdom is real work. I'm sure there is also some generational trauma being healed too.
You’re absolutely right: you're better for your communities when you’re well. When you're resourced, rested, and rooted.
You're not behind. You're becoming. And I’m so glad this landed when you needed it. 💛
Exactly, yes! So much generational trauma that I’m still working through and all of it is exhausting work, but worth it for me. But again, thank you for reframing what I can and am supposed to do and that taking care of myself isn’t selfish, it’s necessary.
Whew, NEEDED to hear this! A huge part of this mindset for me is being placed in a caretaker role especially as the eldest daughter. I want my work and legacy to help people and be the antithesis of capitalism and grind culture, but felt (and still feel at times) that the people I want to work with won’t be able to afford what I ask for, despite going above and beyond, but the ones that can afford what I would like to charge, just…aren’t aligned in my values. It’s something I still wrestle with and part of the reason I haven’t put together a service list as part of my website/portfolio, but is what’s holding me back. I don’t want to be a martyr anymore, I’m better for my communities when I’m able to take care of myself, live, and go through constant burn out. Thank you for this reminder 💝
I feel this so deeply. That eldest daughter, caretaker energy runs deep—and unlearning martyrdom is real work. I'm sure there is also some generational trauma being healed too.
You’re absolutely right: you're better for your communities when you’re well. When you're resourced, rested, and rooted.
You're not behind. You're becoming. And I’m so glad this landed when you needed it. 💛
Exactly, yes! So much generational trauma that I’m still working through and all of it is exhausting work, but worth it for me. But again, thank you for reframing what I can and am supposed to do and that taking care of myself isn’t selfish, it’s necessary.